Hungry Ghost?

No one is rushing to the altar with the women who are not feeding themselves. Starving yourself of sex and intimacy won’t prepare you to meet “the one.”

Starving yourself of sex and intimacy won’t prepare you to meet “the one.”

In fact, this kind of deliberate deprivation will change your energy, your physiology and your brain so much that when you do come into contact with him, you’ll make him responsible for so much of your withheld desire and obedience that you won’t be able to see him fully, and your blame him because he’ll never do it right for you.

..and you’ll in turn project and vilify his not-enoughness because he can never be responsible for the hunger you refused to feed yourself before he walked into your life.

Self deprivation is one of the more subtle, mostly because it has been trending in western culture for far too long, but most harmful forms of self-abuse. Where we do not draw the line at hunger for touch, love, and connection, we continue right on with food restriction, with-holding self care or rest, simple nurturing self pleasure, asking for help, and other deprivatator led “punishments.”

But, you are so hell bent on making sure he/ everyone knows you’re not a “slut” you’d sooner starve than acknowledge the universal truth of a woman’s hunger (yes this is why whole cultures oppress and control women) you have in essence become complicit in self oppression to prove your obedience for a “reward” you can never actually earn.

Your obedience is getting you NONE of what your cultural compliance says it does. Even if you think it guarantees you the man purity culture promised you- he might be a little- Jaded. Proceed with Caution.

You’re better off looking for community with Women who read and have been Initiated by Mama Gena, Juliet Allen, Caroline Knapp and other well fed- well F*cked women. Their men are devoted and they can show you a new path to actually listening to the body in a way that will turn your body all the way on, from there the sky is the limit because you are now allowed to run fully on the life force energy you possess. Exhaustion will melt away, and your life will align with your greatest dreams.

Trust me. I know because I am living proof.